by Rebecca Cavender | death, divorce, healing, letting go, relationships |
This business of letting go isn’t always easy. Sometimes it takes on its own form, as though the thing which you need to let go is on one end of a string pulling at your chest, a tug of war, a sense of trying to reign in what needs to just … be. On...
by Rebecca Cavender | divorce, divorcing, ex, ex-husband, gratitude, healing, letter, love, relationships, self-love |
Dear You, We met 12 years ago today in that little coffee shop next to the ferry. I saw you through the large window, sitting calmly in your independence, your head gently bent over a book on global issues. Your big ideas, your worldly view and experiences, your...
by Rebecca Cavender | death, grandparents, healing, love, relationships |
Death makes you feel completely out of control. Control is rendered null and void when you see your 95 year old grandmother’s perfect pink and white casket get lifted up and pushed deeply into a cement crypt. When the mortician begins to seal the crypt, it...
by Rebecca Cavender | divine feminine, healing, intuition, love, relationships, self-love |
Dear Nice Girl: You know who you are. You’re the one who doesn’t raise your voice in argument. You raise your hopes that understanding will prevail. You’re the one who helps the elderly couple struggling to carry their luggage. You’re the one who tidies the...
by Rebecca Cavender | divine feminine, love, relationships |
I met a woman – a stranger – at the swimming pool yesterday. There was only one other person in the pool besides me and she asked both of us, “Is it OK if I dive in the pool? I know we’re not really supposed to, but sometimes … you just...
by Rebecca Cavender | divorcing, healing, illness, relationships |
One of the unexpected questions that creep up when you’re suddenly single is: Who will take care of you when your bones go brittle and the wrinkles get deep? Who will take care of you if you become terminally ill or have an accident of some sort that changes you and...
