by Rebecca Cavender | death, divorce, divorcing, family, healing, patterns, relationships |
I give you an emptiness, I give you a plentitude, unwrap them carefully. – one’s as fragile as the other – (Norman MacCaig, Presents) Patterns of death weave their tapestries through my life. Sometimes the connections are uncanny, tightly knotted:...
by Rebecca Cavender | acceptance, break up letter to all the men, breaking up, changing life, changing stories, divorcing, dreams, ex, healing, letting go, loss, love, saying what you need to say, self esteem, self-love, vulnerability |
Dearest You,It’s been awhile since we’ve talked. Really talked. I wish we could sit in that café where we shared a loveseat; I rested my head upon your wide shoulders and you slowly inhaled the scent of my hair, kissing the top of my head. Or we could meet in my car...
by Rebecca Cavender | acceptance, boundaries, change, healing, integrity, moving on, self esteem, self-love |
I don’t know about you, but it’s hard for me to say no … even during times it would serve me well. But no constricts my throat, squeezes tight, and doesn’t let go. So, instead of feeling uncomfortable and listening to my intuition, I’ve said yes when no was the best –...
by Rebecca Cavender | a woman alone, acceptance, big girls, healing, integrity, letting go, self-love, vulnerability |
I stood naked today. In front of a tall, full length mirror. No preliminary glance, no quick retreat. Shame wasn’t allowed. While I see myself nude daily, it’s in a half mirror that sits above the bathroom sink. It allows me to focus on the parts of my body I’m...
by Rebecca Cavender | acceptance, big girls, body image, healing, relationships, self esteem, self-love |
Something happened. When our eyes met, she shifted and suddenly, her body was pressed tightly against mine. With one hand pulling her closer and the other holding a pen to sign her out of the afterschool program, I prepared myself. “There was an incident,” the teacher...
by Rebecca Cavender | healing, love, relationships, self-love |
You don’t have to be perfect. None of us are. And you don’t need all the answers. It’s impossible to expect that you’ll make all of the very best decisions all of the time. You won’t. Sometimes, our fear of getting too close to someone – or our fear of losing them –...
