by Rebecca Cavender | death, divorce, divorcing, family, healing, patterns, relationships |
I give you an emptiness, I give you a plentitude, unwrap them carefully. – one’s as fragile as the other – (Norman MacCaig, Presents) Patterns of death weave their tapestries through my life. Sometimes the connections are uncanny, tightly knotted:...
by Rebecca Cavender | divorce, healing, relationships, single parent, vulnerability |
It’s at night, after my daughter is tucked into bed, I turn down the lights to cuddle under a blanket, reach for the remote, and it hits: absence. I briefly acknowledge my empty sofa with a sigh. Usually, it’s just fine. Usually, I enjoy the time alone and choose...
by Rebecca Cavender | dating, divorce, love, parenting, relationships, single parent |
“Mom, you know how you told me some boys at school might act a little mean, but really, they likeyou? Well, I guess you’re right,” my daughter said after school yesterday, as she buckled her seat belt. Eying her from the rear-view mirror, I asked what happened. ...
by Rebecca Cavender | big girls, dating, divorce, healing, love, relationships, self-love |
There is a crazy amount of ridiculousness online about dating big girls, loving big girls, how to talk to big girls, how you better stay away from big girls, how guys only like big girls in secret … you get the point. I’ve read that an advantage of being with a...
by Rebecca Cavender | death, divorce, healing, letting go, relationships |
This business of letting go isn’t always easy. Sometimes it takes on its own form, as though the thing which you need to let go is on one end of a string pulling at your chest, a tug of war, a sense of trying to reign in what needs to just … be. On...
by Rebecca Cavender | divorce, divorcing, ex, ex-husband, gratitude, healing, letter, love, relationships, self-love |
Dear You, We met 12 years ago today in that little coffee shop next to the ferry. I saw you through the large window, sitting calmly in your independence, your head gently bent over a book on global issues. Your big ideas, your worldly view and experiences, your...
